Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Remember Success, http://www.motivation123.com/prd-mim.html
Just as important as learning from and overcoming past failure is recalling past success. It doesn't matter who you are, you have succeeded at something at sometime in your past. Don't gloss over these moments. Use them to remind you that you can in fact achieve your goals.
Let Go of the Past, http://www.motivation123.com/prd-mim.html
Before you can create a better future, you must let go of the pains in your past. Failing once does not mean you will fail forever. Learn from your history, but don't let it stand as an obstacle between you and your dreams.
Friday, September 25, 2009
Achiever
The secret of getting ahead is getting started; the secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming task into small manageable task and then starting on the first one.
You must believe and be aware of your inert qualities and potentials which lie latent because of non-usage.
Achievement is any attachment which puts you and a level of recognition and admiration.
Achievers have some common qualities which can be inherited or acquired through learning and experience which have made their attachment possible and these qualities have to be used well without reserve, such opportunities do not come by easily, when you start experiencing some incoming ideas put them down to paper quickly for remembrance because you do not know when, where, how next it will come in to help in future. Scientist are known for jotting or writing down ideas that comes by whether good or bad in other to help them in there future discovery. Learn to adapt putting down ideas because you do not know when next it will come, and might be difficult to get. To become an achiever some of these qualities have to be considered: confidence, growth, belief in your ability, creativity, passion, courage, patience.
Qualities of an Achiever:
Confidence in oneself initiates an attempt towards an activity and gives way to stepping forward towards believing in your ability to accomplish the task you have chosen. Faith is the key. Expanding your comfort zone is not quite the same as building self-confidence. However, the two do fit together rather nicely. The one begets the other. So many people feel stuck in a rut… bored from a routine that is safe and comfortable but not very exciting. Fear of falling flat on your face or of looking foolish stops you from reaching out beyond that cozy little life you have created for yourself. If your goal is to expand your comfort zone, then you must think positive while doing so. Remember that nothing really bad can happen to you if you are smart in how you go about trying new things. It is all just new adventures. Become like a curious child and have some fun.
Growth is an essential part of success and it comes through learning from our past mistakes. Can you remember anything you were trying to develop or ideas you had in mind once at different times, and you decided to dump them because you were unable to finish or make meaning out of it, go back by taking it up again, study your mistakes and try them out again, you will find out that something tangible will definitely come out of it. The first man that produced a motor car made series of mistakes and never gave up, despite discouragements from people, who never believed in him, but he had a target, today you and I can use cars to travel to very far distance. People may laugh at you, but they do not own your destiny or life, only stick to that purpose why you were born into this world. The greatest mistake or tragedy of a man is not to lose his loved ones, business, etc but not been able to fulfill the purpose of being sent here on earth. Discover your purpose of why you were created, may be you could be the one people have been waiting for, to save them from their misery. Don’t let the mistakes and disappointments of the past control and direct your future.
Many riches, wealth, knowledge, wisdom, have been wasted and dumped at cemeteries, graves filled with waste knowledge not used for the growth of man, hidden and unhidden. It is better to make the graves poorer than occupying them with riches.
Grow up now and let not that knowledge be a waste one, then would you become a great Achiever.
Believe in yourself and not on what people say about you. Here belief is same as faith. You don’t need people (everybody’s) approval to succeed. You must have faith in all that you put your hand into, because it is the key that moves mountains, but you have to keep on pushing while you are praying, and it’s an oasis in the heart which will never be reached by the caravan of thinking. A garden is the evidence of faith. It links us with all the misty figures of the past who also planted and were nourished by the fruits of their planting.
Believe that God gave you a mind of your own to think, reason and make decisions concerning your personal life. Some of the things you are afraid of are incapable of delivering their threat. Also, never stop your advance because of something you are afraid of. Do you know that behind every fear is your breakthrough? As long as you afraid, you may never hit your breakthrough. What are you afraid of? What is that thing you dread so much that has made you stop your advance? Drop it! That fear has no substance but faith has substance. Start to expect that the situation will turn around for your good and it shall be so. Expect the best. Reject every thought of failure, disappointment, dryness, delay or death. Around that bend lies your greatest joy, which will lead you to a positive result and a great Achiever.
NB: The most important tool you have to influence on people or change their views is your Action.
Words have no life unless you give them life through your Actions.
Most people would like to be someone else to achieve a goal, but there is only one you in the whole Universe, remember you are Unique. You don’t need to be someone else to achieve your realizable goals, and this is where achievement starts.
The totality of your life experience makes you an unduplicated individual on earth. There is need for one to work towards his dreams, and that can be achieved by only being focused. Believe it is possible to solve your problems. Tremendous things happen to the believers. So believe the answer will come, when you believe, your perception will change, your language will change, your way of approach will change, and every negative side of you will change to positive, thereby making yourself, family, and nation great, and a great Achiever of your time.
Creativity is an inherent gift from God. It constantly reminds us that where there is a will there is a way. All those who aspire to enter the book of achievers must learn to be flexible.
NB.; Flexibility does not denote pliability. You need not to let yourself be subjected to the whims and wills of others in other to have a flexible mentality.
Flexibility can best be described as the ability to survey and assess a given situation swiftly and react to it on the basis of logic and reasoning with a maximum emotion.
Creativity is important in ones life, but one thing you have to realize is that life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself. Continue in the face of odds and obstacles, and the result will be tremendous. With motivation and aspiration, you can catapult yourself to greater heights, especially when the spirit is low.
Be open to ideas, for they are seeds that spring forth great riches and lasting success.
Without ideas, there can be no creativity. One striking word which desires a special search light in this discourse is creativity.
Creativity is an act of gift of consciousness; hence it is everybody’s inheritance. It is one reliable tool with which you can move from your present state to the state of your Creation. It is a driving force which gives birth to excellence in human activities. It is the spice of life, without it society will become bored.
Passion brings about commitment, dedication and zeal in the work you do. How do you feel after every each work accomplished? Do you meet them with great enthusiasm or the opposite? Do you approach each work with anger, rage, and outburst? Approach each activity with every zeal of burning love in you. Learn to enjoy the giving talent you have. Be fascinated in your work that is form of interest. Be excited in every state of your work and abstain from anger. Remember that of all things you wear, your expression is the most important, also beauty of every thing you do captures people’s attention; but personality captures the heart. Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do, but how much love we put in that action. Every zeal in a work brings success. Be passionate in your giving talent, for there lies the success, because you are expected to pass through this world but once, any good therefore that you can do, or any kindness or abilities that you can show to any fellow creature, do it now. Do not defer or neglect it, for you shall not pass this way again. With this passion in you, it also brings joy, and this joy increases as you give it, and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself. In giving it, you will accumulate a deposit of joy greater than you ever believed possible. The search for your passion starts with realizing who you are, not what you are, but who you are. It is a search inward which in and of itself can become a passionate exploration. And it is this inward search that will lead you to the awareness of your Highest Potential; the search that leads you to your Passion. Let us be about setting high standards for life, love, creativity, and wisdom. If our expectations in these areas are low, we are not likely to experience well-ness. Setting high standards makes every day and every decade worth looking forward to becoming an achiever.
Courage is the ability to control fear, situations, when facing danger, pain, and opposition. It is followed with bravery, step after step at every situation in ones life, especially when met with a very difficult decision. As a saying in the bible, says; “be thou strong and courageous”, which means that in all situation one need not to allow himself to deviate from his course. Try to picture your project and see yourself already successful though not yet there. Summon up courage and strength in your daily activities before carrying any out, and at the end of the day ask yourself what you achieved. Are you worried that no progress has been made or is there any discouragement meet? Do check the mistakes as previously executed and summon up courage once more. Never give up in any situation you find yourself, after all Rome was not built in a day, there were series of mistakes made by the people that built the city before bringing its standard. Let’s look around us by citing example from the ants, they have strong motivation in whatever they do, everyone see themselves as leaders. Your size or limitations are not enough to affect your performance, achievements or destiny. No limitation in your life can limit the abilities in you, unless you let it. The ants do struggle to live as humans – they live comfortably. Do you know that unpleasant or impossible situation or circumstances is strong enough to kill your dreams? Everyone has talent, what is rear is the courage to follow that talent to the place where it leads; and every talent contains piece of good news inside. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is. Do not give up hope of excelling in that career, business or seemingly impossible place of work. Always remember there is a survival instinct in man. Another lesson in these ants is that they are self-motivated. If you will ever make it to your goal, you have to devise a means or strategy for motivating yourself. What you choose as your motivation is central to the achievement of your goal. If you choose someone as your motivator and suddenly he falls out, it actually means you will definitely crash out, and the only motivator one has to look upon is God. Choose Him as your motivator in anything you lay your hands and success will surely come your way. Appreciate Him in everything, because appreciation can make a day - even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary. Encourage your self in all situations, only do not wait for something big to occur, start where you are, with what you have, and that will always lead you into something greater. When you succeed try let out the cat from its bag, this you do will help someone outside to stand by taking up courage. When a baby rises to its feet, takes a step, is overcome with triumph and joy and falls flat on its face, it is a pattern for all that is to come, learn from the bewildered baby, and lurch to your feet again. We would not know whose life we have touched and made better for our having cared, because actions can sometimes have unforeseen ramifications. What important is that you do care, you act. As you take up courage from your stand, do same for others, for we were created for success and achievers of the future.
Patience can be referred to as the ability to continue waiting or doing something for a long time without becoming angry or anxious or it is the ability to wait, to control your impulses, and hold back your frustrations, its necessary to developing good relationships with your family, friends, and even yourself. Many people are not achieving their goals just because they are in hurry and never put patience into consideration. So many of us lack patience in our society today, leading us to make impulsive choices, become angry with loved ones, and even perform acts of violence. With so many demands placed on us these days from work, family and society, developing patience is more critical than ever. All sentient beings, everyone around you, enemies, friends, and neutral people are very important because your enlightenment depends on them. It is by and with them that we can begin to cultivate spiritual qualities like patience. In fact, the best person for helping us to develop patience is an enemy. You might wonder how that is that possible. Well, how can you practice patience if you have no enemies who try your patience? An enemy is just as precious as someone who benefits you, because without them, how can you practice patience? They help you develop a kind of inbuilt impulse that was never part of you. Do you know that the devil is ready to endure anything; even if it takes years to get bring you down, as he tried Job in the Bible? Most of the time we experience such at home with our kids, siblings, parents, neighbors, and then at work, like your boss, colleagues, tight friends. Without patience negative emotions are easily built, like anger, hatred, and frustration.
We certainly have the opportunity to practice patience in our daily lives. A few common examples are: trying to find a parking place, waiting in a long postal queue, sitting in the doctors offices for hours, being put on hold via a computer-generated telephone message, getting passed from one person to another only to get cut off and end up having to go through the whole rigmarole again, waiting for God to give out the right spiritual gift. Without patience we will not know the right steps to follow. Children and adolescents can also certainly try our patience beyond reckoning.
Tips for being patient with the world
1. "Answer your emails only twice a day at scheduled times. Firstly, to check for urgent emails, and a secondly, at time that you have scheduled after the important tasks have been done (this includes Facebook, Skype, MySpace, Twitter etc.). One of the biggest distracters and time wasters is to respond to emails as they come in, so disable the symbol and sound that notifies you when an email hits your inbox and better yet, turn the Internet off completely so you don't end up surfing the web. Make sure you have no distractions. The studies indicate that every email or anything else that interrupts you, takes 12-15 minutes to get back on track. The same goes for your child who is studying for exams and doing homework.
2. Turn off your phone and mobile and put them on voicemail. When it fits into your schedule, respond to the very important ones and leave the rest till later!
3. If you find it intolerable to wait in queues, always carry an inspirational book or something to preoccupy yourself. Maybe it's a good time to sort out what's in your bag or look at your schedule tomorrow and get organized for the next day. Or listen to the audible earworms on your iPod to learn a new language. This is also a good time to say your affirmations.
4. The next time you start to get aggravated at the dawdling bank teller, the intrusive telesales person, or the disappearing waiter/waitress, imagine that there is a CCTV camera that shows the public a large close up of your face so that every muscle of your impatience is visible. If you don't like that image of yourself then how would you like the world to notice you?
Tips for being patient with your kids
1. When you feel like saying something out of frustration and intolerance, try to either zip your lip or crack a joke instead. Act patiently, don't yak impatiently. You can also reframe the situation at hand with a light-hearted approach. Laughter is much better for your health than the stress that comes with a short fuse and exasperation. Remember, for every minute you are angry you lose 60 seconds of joy with your child.
2. Watch your body-language. Children with ADHD and ASD are developmentally delayed in their ability to self-control and to demonstrate certain prosocial behaviours (usually 30-40% below their peers). All children go through different developmental stages and it is normal to find your child doing such things as writing with a black marker on a beautiful wooden floor or smearing makeup all over her face, your clothes and your room. Before you assume that your child is just being a right pain, consider that she might be trying to copy her mother. Children are experimenting and discovering their world. Kids will spill and break things and they may get sick on your new carpet. Sometimes they are clumsy, vulnerable, forgetful and they make mistakes. Instead of showing a facial expression of disgust and anger, the responsibility lies with the parent to keep things in a safe place and out of reach and to show patience and understanding. Of course there are times that parents need to give consequences, but make sure the punishment fits the crime for what is developmentally appropriate. Kids are not little adults.
3. If you take the time to problem solve with your kids, it gives them practice in developing critical thinking skills which they will need to function successfully in life. Patient parents take the time to be involved in collaborative problem-solving with family members. Dr. Ross Greene, who wrote the book: The Explosive Child, states:
"Instead of asking yourself, 'What's it going to take to motivate this kid to behave differently?' ask 'Why is this so hard for this child? What's getting in his way? How can I help?'"
Tips for being patient with yourself
1. It's not at all flattering to you when you arrive late to meetings and appointments. Make it a habit to arrive early. This will take a conscious effort on your part to set the alarm clock at an earlier time and make a commitment to get on your journey at least half an hour ahead of time. Visualize yourself being early from now on. If you dread waiting around, think of it as a time to practice patience. You can also pull out that inspirational book, sort out what's in your bag or briefcase, organize your schedule, listen to an audible book on your iPod, say your affirmations or breathe deeply. You will feel more contained, collected, and grounded. This serenity can only boost your self-esteem.
2. Really get skilled at this. Become more consciously aware of your impulsiveness and impatience. Count or record how many times during the day you are impatient. Then try to decrease your score! Take deep breaths as an alternative response. We have read that deep breathing can help you lose weight and keep you healthy, thus, the benefits far outweigh the disadvantages of losing your cool. Practice, practice, practice. Yes you can change!
3. Don't try to be all things to all people. Give yourself permission to say "No", "I think that will be too much". "I won't really have time to do that". "Sorry, I can't fit that in to my schedule". When you do make plans to meet with someone, make it your goal to really take pleasure in their company. It is easier to enjoy people when you have made the proper time to see them, and you can give them your full attention. It's not enjoyable to others when you are multi-tasking while talking. It doesn't feel good that you can barely fit them into your schedule and you are looking at your watch from the beginning of the encounter. It is better to be fully present and mindful of your friend, child, relative or colleague. It's also the quality of time together that is valuable, not the quantity.
"Genius is eternal patience." - Michelangelo
Finally, you are the author of your life, you can re-write the book of your life at will. All it takes is action, propelled by your ambition or desires. The will power lies in you for decision to make, and carry out. Only be careful how you make them. The cumulative result of all inner programes is our self image. Despite our conscious efforts to create a self-image, each person has unlimited ideas of what we actually project. You have a unique definition of success and success can only come through a Unique Vision. Your vision will come through when you focus well without distraction. Picture your vision of ideas; study them while embarking on any project.
You must believe and be aware of your inert qualities and potentials which lie latent because of non-usage.
Achievement is any attachment which puts you and a level of recognition and admiration.
Achievers have some common qualities which can be inherited or acquired through learning and experience which have made their attachment possible and these qualities have to be used well without reserve, such opportunities do not come by easily, when you start experiencing some incoming ideas put them down to paper quickly for remembrance because you do not know when, where, how next it will come in to help in future. Scientist are known for jotting or writing down ideas that comes by whether good or bad in other to help them in there future discovery. Learn to adapt putting down ideas because you do not know when next it will come, and might be difficult to get. To become an achiever some of these qualities have to be considered: confidence, growth, belief in your ability, creativity, passion, courage, patience.
Qualities of an Achiever:
Confidence in oneself initiates an attempt towards an activity and gives way to stepping forward towards believing in your ability to accomplish the task you have chosen. Faith is the key. Expanding your comfort zone is not quite the same as building self-confidence. However, the two do fit together rather nicely. The one begets the other. So many people feel stuck in a rut… bored from a routine that is safe and comfortable but not very exciting. Fear of falling flat on your face or of looking foolish stops you from reaching out beyond that cozy little life you have created for yourself. If your goal is to expand your comfort zone, then you must think positive while doing so. Remember that nothing really bad can happen to you if you are smart in how you go about trying new things. It is all just new adventures. Become like a curious child and have some fun.
Growth is an essential part of success and it comes through learning from our past mistakes. Can you remember anything you were trying to develop or ideas you had in mind once at different times, and you decided to dump them because you were unable to finish or make meaning out of it, go back by taking it up again, study your mistakes and try them out again, you will find out that something tangible will definitely come out of it. The first man that produced a motor car made series of mistakes and never gave up, despite discouragements from people, who never believed in him, but he had a target, today you and I can use cars to travel to very far distance. People may laugh at you, but they do not own your destiny or life, only stick to that purpose why you were born into this world. The greatest mistake or tragedy of a man is not to lose his loved ones, business, etc but not been able to fulfill the purpose of being sent here on earth. Discover your purpose of why you were created, may be you could be the one people have been waiting for, to save them from their misery. Don’t let the mistakes and disappointments of the past control and direct your future.
Many riches, wealth, knowledge, wisdom, have been wasted and dumped at cemeteries, graves filled with waste knowledge not used for the growth of man, hidden and unhidden. It is better to make the graves poorer than occupying them with riches.
Grow up now and let not that knowledge be a waste one, then would you become a great Achiever.
Believe in yourself and not on what people say about you. Here belief is same as faith. You don’t need people (everybody’s) approval to succeed. You must have faith in all that you put your hand into, because it is the key that moves mountains, but you have to keep on pushing while you are praying, and it’s an oasis in the heart which will never be reached by the caravan of thinking. A garden is the evidence of faith. It links us with all the misty figures of the past who also planted and were nourished by the fruits of their planting.
Believe that God gave you a mind of your own to think, reason and make decisions concerning your personal life. Some of the things you are afraid of are incapable of delivering their threat. Also, never stop your advance because of something you are afraid of. Do you know that behind every fear is your breakthrough? As long as you afraid, you may never hit your breakthrough. What are you afraid of? What is that thing you dread so much that has made you stop your advance? Drop it! That fear has no substance but faith has substance. Start to expect that the situation will turn around for your good and it shall be so. Expect the best. Reject every thought of failure, disappointment, dryness, delay or death. Around that bend lies your greatest joy, which will lead you to a positive result and a great Achiever.
NB: The most important tool you have to influence on people or change their views is your Action.
Words have no life unless you give them life through your Actions.
Most people would like to be someone else to achieve a goal, but there is only one you in the whole Universe, remember you are Unique. You don’t need to be someone else to achieve your realizable goals, and this is where achievement starts.
The totality of your life experience makes you an unduplicated individual on earth. There is need for one to work towards his dreams, and that can be achieved by only being focused. Believe it is possible to solve your problems. Tremendous things happen to the believers. So believe the answer will come, when you believe, your perception will change, your language will change, your way of approach will change, and every negative side of you will change to positive, thereby making yourself, family, and nation great, and a great Achiever of your time.
Creativity is an inherent gift from God. It constantly reminds us that where there is a will there is a way. All those who aspire to enter the book of achievers must learn to be flexible.
NB.; Flexibility does not denote pliability. You need not to let yourself be subjected to the whims and wills of others in other to have a flexible mentality.
Flexibility can best be described as the ability to survey and assess a given situation swiftly and react to it on the basis of logic and reasoning with a maximum emotion.
Creativity is important in ones life, but one thing you have to realize is that life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself. Continue in the face of odds and obstacles, and the result will be tremendous. With motivation and aspiration, you can catapult yourself to greater heights, especially when the spirit is low.
Be open to ideas, for they are seeds that spring forth great riches and lasting success.
Without ideas, there can be no creativity. One striking word which desires a special search light in this discourse is creativity.
Creativity is an act of gift of consciousness; hence it is everybody’s inheritance. It is one reliable tool with which you can move from your present state to the state of your Creation. It is a driving force which gives birth to excellence in human activities. It is the spice of life, without it society will become bored.
Passion brings about commitment, dedication and zeal in the work you do. How do you feel after every each work accomplished? Do you meet them with great enthusiasm or the opposite? Do you approach each work with anger, rage, and outburst? Approach each activity with every zeal of burning love in you. Learn to enjoy the giving talent you have. Be fascinated in your work that is form of interest. Be excited in every state of your work and abstain from anger. Remember that of all things you wear, your expression is the most important, also beauty of every thing you do captures people’s attention; but personality captures the heart. Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do, but how much love we put in that action. Every zeal in a work brings success. Be passionate in your giving talent, for there lies the success, because you are expected to pass through this world but once, any good therefore that you can do, or any kindness or abilities that you can show to any fellow creature, do it now. Do not defer or neglect it, for you shall not pass this way again. With this passion in you, it also brings joy, and this joy increases as you give it, and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself. In giving it, you will accumulate a deposit of joy greater than you ever believed possible. The search for your passion starts with realizing who you are, not what you are, but who you are. It is a search inward which in and of itself can become a passionate exploration. And it is this inward search that will lead you to the awareness of your Highest Potential; the search that leads you to your Passion. Let us be about setting high standards for life, love, creativity, and wisdom. If our expectations in these areas are low, we are not likely to experience well-ness. Setting high standards makes every day and every decade worth looking forward to becoming an achiever.
Courage is the ability to control fear, situations, when facing danger, pain, and opposition. It is followed with bravery, step after step at every situation in ones life, especially when met with a very difficult decision. As a saying in the bible, says; “be thou strong and courageous”, which means that in all situation one need not to allow himself to deviate from his course. Try to picture your project and see yourself already successful though not yet there. Summon up courage and strength in your daily activities before carrying any out, and at the end of the day ask yourself what you achieved. Are you worried that no progress has been made or is there any discouragement meet? Do check the mistakes as previously executed and summon up courage once more. Never give up in any situation you find yourself, after all Rome was not built in a day, there were series of mistakes made by the people that built the city before bringing its standard. Let’s look around us by citing example from the ants, they have strong motivation in whatever they do, everyone see themselves as leaders. Your size or limitations are not enough to affect your performance, achievements or destiny. No limitation in your life can limit the abilities in you, unless you let it. The ants do struggle to live as humans – they live comfortably. Do you know that unpleasant or impossible situation or circumstances is strong enough to kill your dreams? Everyone has talent, what is rear is the courage to follow that talent to the place where it leads; and every talent contains piece of good news inside. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be, how much you can love, what you can accomplish, and what your potential is. Do not give up hope of excelling in that career, business or seemingly impossible place of work. Always remember there is a survival instinct in man. Another lesson in these ants is that they are self-motivated. If you will ever make it to your goal, you have to devise a means or strategy for motivating yourself. What you choose as your motivation is central to the achievement of your goal. If you choose someone as your motivator and suddenly he falls out, it actually means you will definitely crash out, and the only motivator one has to look upon is God. Choose Him as your motivator in anything you lay your hands and success will surely come your way. Appreciate Him in everything, because appreciation can make a day - even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary. Encourage your self in all situations, only do not wait for something big to occur, start where you are, with what you have, and that will always lead you into something greater. When you succeed try let out the cat from its bag, this you do will help someone outside to stand by taking up courage. When a baby rises to its feet, takes a step, is overcome with triumph and joy and falls flat on its face, it is a pattern for all that is to come, learn from the bewildered baby, and lurch to your feet again. We would not know whose life we have touched and made better for our having cared, because actions can sometimes have unforeseen ramifications. What important is that you do care, you act. As you take up courage from your stand, do same for others, for we were created for success and achievers of the future.
Patience can be referred to as the ability to continue waiting or doing something for a long time without becoming angry or anxious or it is the ability to wait, to control your impulses, and hold back your frustrations, its necessary to developing good relationships with your family, friends, and even yourself. Many people are not achieving their goals just because they are in hurry and never put patience into consideration. So many of us lack patience in our society today, leading us to make impulsive choices, become angry with loved ones, and even perform acts of violence. With so many demands placed on us these days from work, family and society, developing patience is more critical than ever. All sentient beings, everyone around you, enemies, friends, and neutral people are very important because your enlightenment depends on them. It is by and with them that we can begin to cultivate spiritual qualities like patience. In fact, the best person for helping us to develop patience is an enemy. You might wonder how that is that possible. Well, how can you practice patience if you have no enemies who try your patience? An enemy is just as precious as someone who benefits you, because without them, how can you practice patience? They help you develop a kind of inbuilt impulse that was never part of you. Do you know that the devil is ready to endure anything; even if it takes years to get bring you down, as he tried Job in the Bible? Most of the time we experience such at home with our kids, siblings, parents, neighbors, and then at work, like your boss, colleagues, tight friends. Without patience negative emotions are easily built, like anger, hatred, and frustration.
We certainly have the opportunity to practice patience in our daily lives. A few common examples are: trying to find a parking place, waiting in a long postal queue, sitting in the doctors offices for hours, being put on hold via a computer-generated telephone message, getting passed from one person to another only to get cut off and end up having to go through the whole rigmarole again, waiting for God to give out the right spiritual gift. Without patience we will not know the right steps to follow. Children and adolescents can also certainly try our patience beyond reckoning.
Tips for being patient with the world
1. "Answer your emails only twice a day at scheduled times. Firstly, to check for urgent emails, and a secondly, at time that you have scheduled after the important tasks have been done (this includes Facebook, Skype, MySpace, Twitter etc.). One of the biggest distracters and time wasters is to respond to emails as they come in, so disable the symbol and sound that notifies you when an email hits your inbox and better yet, turn the Internet off completely so you don't end up surfing the web. Make sure you have no distractions. The studies indicate that every email or anything else that interrupts you, takes 12-15 minutes to get back on track. The same goes for your child who is studying for exams and doing homework.
2. Turn off your phone and mobile and put them on voicemail. When it fits into your schedule, respond to the very important ones and leave the rest till later!
3. If you find it intolerable to wait in queues, always carry an inspirational book or something to preoccupy yourself. Maybe it's a good time to sort out what's in your bag or look at your schedule tomorrow and get organized for the next day. Or listen to the audible earworms on your iPod to learn a new language. This is also a good time to say your affirmations.
4. The next time you start to get aggravated at the dawdling bank teller, the intrusive telesales person, or the disappearing waiter/waitress, imagine that there is a CCTV camera that shows the public a large close up of your face so that every muscle of your impatience is visible. If you don't like that image of yourself then how would you like the world to notice you?
Tips for being patient with your kids
1. When you feel like saying something out of frustration and intolerance, try to either zip your lip or crack a joke instead. Act patiently, don't yak impatiently. You can also reframe the situation at hand with a light-hearted approach. Laughter is much better for your health than the stress that comes with a short fuse and exasperation. Remember, for every minute you are angry you lose 60 seconds of joy with your child.
2. Watch your body-language. Children with ADHD and ASD are developmentally delayed in their ability to self-control and to demonstrate certain prosocial behaviours (usually 30-40% below their peers). All children go through different developmental stages and it is normal to find your child doing such things as writing with a black marker on a beautiful wooden floor or smearing makeup all over her face, your clothes and your room. Before you assume that your child is just being a right pain, consider that she might be trying to copy her mother. Children are experimenting and discovering their world. Kids will spill and break things and they may get sick on your new carpet. Sometimes they are clumsy, vulnerable, forgetful and they make mistakes. Instead of showing a facial expression of disgust and anger, the responsibility lies with the parent to keep things in a safe place and out of reach and to show patience and understanding. Of course there are times that parents need to give consequences, but make sure the punishment fits the crime for what is developmentally appropriate. Kids are not little adults.
3. If you take the time to problem solve with your kids, it gives them practice in developing critical thinking skills which they will need to function successfully in life. Patient parents take the time to be involved in collaborative problem-solving with family members. Dr. Ross Greene, who wrote the book: The Explosive Child, states:
"Instead of asking yourself, 'What's it going to take to motivate this kid to behave differently?' ask 'Why is this so hard for this child? What's getting in his way? How can I help?'"
Tips for being patient with yourself
1. It's not at all flattering to you when you arrive late to meetings and appointments. Make it a habit to arrive early. This will take a conscious effort on your part to set the alarm clock at an earlier time and make a commitment to get on your journey at least half an hour ahead of time. Visualize yourself being early from now on. If you dread waiting around, think of it as a time to practice patience. You can also pull out that inspirational book, sort out what's in your bag or briefcase, organize your schedule, listen to an audible book on your iPod, say your affirmations or breathe deeply. You will feel more contained, collected, and grounded. This serenity can only boost your self-esteem.
2. Really get skilled at this. Become more consciously aware of your impulsiveness and impatience. Count or record how many times during the day you are impatient. Then try to decrease your score! Take deep breaths as an alternative response. We have read that deep breathing can help you lose weight and keep you healthy, thus, the benefits far outweigh the disadvantages of losing your cool. Practice, practice, practice. Yes you can change!
3. Don't try to be all things to all people. Give yourself permission to say "No", "I think that will be too much". "I won't really have time to do that". "Sorry, I can't fit that in to my schedule". When you do make plans to meet with someone, make it your goal to really take pleasure in their company. It is easier to enjoy people when you have made the proper time to see them, and you can give them your full attention. It's not enjoyable to others when you are multi-tasking while talking. It doesn't feel good that you can barely fit them into your schedule and you are looking at your watch from the beginning of the encounter. It is better to be fully present and mindful of your friend, child, relative or colleague. It's also the quality of time together that is valuable, not the quantity.
"Genius is eternal patience." - Michelangelo
Finally, you are the author of your life, you can re-write the book of your life at will. All it takes is action, propelled by your ambition or desires. The will power lies in you for decision to make, and carry out. Only be careful how you make them. The cumulative result of all inner programes is our self image. Despite our conscious efforts to create a self-image, each person has unlimited ideas of what we actually project. You have a unique definition of success and success can only come through a Unique Vision. Your vision will come through when you focus well without distraction. Picture your vision of ideas; study them while embarking on any project.
Friday, September 4, 2009
YOU CAN
Our mind has power and effect on our success in life. Always tell yourself i can do it.Our mind has an influence in our actions.Philipians 4:13 tells us ” I can do it through Christ who strenghtens me…..”“Unless you enter the beehive,you cant take the honey”. You can be what you want to be. It all starts from the mind. Never Say Never.John Mason said, “you do not tap the talents inside you until you attempt the impossible”We are rubber bands, most useful when we are stretched.Impossibility is only found in the dictionary of lazy people.Believe what the bible said that “with God all things are possible”.“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare,it is because we do not dare that things are difficult: - SenecaImpossibilty simply means something nobody can do until somebody does it.“We do not need more intellectuall power,we need more spiritual power,we do not need more things that are seen,we need more of the things that are unseen” - Calvin Coolidge.“The people who are really failures are the people who set their standards so low,keep the bar at such a safe level,that they never run the risk of failure” - Robert Schullar.Today believe in yourself that you will do it. and you will do it, always have a positive attitude in anything you want to doDevelop the attitude of telling yourself I CAN DO IT , through the grace and power of God.God will help us as we take action today.
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